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我家背面的fence在圣诞期间被吹倒了。以前背面邻居是个高高大大的美国人。Fence 以前到过一次，他二话没说，把fence竖了起来。我想这次他也会这样做。我一点也不操心。
算盘打错了。那个高高大大，勤勤快快的邻居几个月前搬走了。一个年轻的单身女人买了他的房子，成了我的背面邻居。我到了这个年轻女人的妈跨过到下的fence, 敲我家的后门，才知道我有了新邻居。
这个年轻女人的妈敲开我家的后门，对我说：We talked to HOA. HOA said the fence is the responsibility of whoever the fence is facing. 我马上说：No, it’s common sense. We share the fence. We share the responsibility. 我还进一步说：The fence on my left isn’t fencing me. I took care of it after IKE. 她说：No, it should be their responsibility since the fence is facing them. 我说：It doesn’t work that way. Both parties need privacy.
So we should share the responsibility.
最后她同意她和我各找个报价，我们share the responsibility (cost). 我们彼此留了电话。过了几天，我打电话给她，问她有没有报价。她说她这几天很忙。她又开始说 HOA 说是我的责任，并说我应该要那个邻居来承担cost since last time they didn’t pay. 我有点茫然，我那个邻居不相干。我说:it’s between me and them. Now we are talking about us, the fence between us. 她又坚持根据HOA是我的责任。我说：If you have that page, I would like to take a look. 她说：You can call HOA. 我说：I don’t need to. Commen sense tells me we share the fence. We share the responsibility. 然后我告诉她我得到的报价。她说：That’s too high. 我说：I know. You are welcome to get another cost. I would like to have a better cost,too. 她说：It’s your responsibility. You should get the cost.
交涉无果，我意识到她就是不愿承担责任。我决定只做minimum repair. 昨天上午叫了俩个人做简单的修复。不久接到她的电话。从ID看是她，不太想接电话。估计她有话说。她既然不出钱，也就无须听她的。但最后还是接了。
她说她在她女儿的家帮她打扫卫生。我应付地说她是个好妈妈。她又说她刚和我的两个工人谈过。他们同意replace the whole fence for 500。我说：That’s awesome. 她又说：It’s really your responsibility. 我说：No, everyone I talked to, they say it’s shared responsibility. Some people even went to court for this. Charge also says it’s shared responsibility. 今天她不是那么fighting. 她说：If that’s Ok with you, I pay 250, you pay 250, do you want to replace the whole fence? 我说：I would love to. 我本来就是这样打算的，何况她的cost 比我的好得多。她又说：Let me talk to my daughter, see what she says, then I’ll let you know.
几分钟后，她又打回来说： My daughter said since the pretty side)smooth side) of the fence faces you, you should pay more. 我说：it really doesn’t bother pretty or urgly. All I care is privacy. If it’s big deal to her, she can have the pretty side. She sounds like a pretty little girl. 很快地她说：OK。 Let me talk to the guys.
我没介入他们的negociation.因为既然是她在和the guys work out the deal , 那两个工人知道她对他们负责。最后我被告知两个工人第二天上午开工， 也就是今天
上午。 她会在今天上午9：30到现场。
俩个工人今天上午打电话给我，说是去买材料。等他们把材料运到，正好下大雨。他们决定明天在干。到了11：00她没到，也没电话。 我给两个工人大电话。要他们明天没收到她的payment 之前不要开工。希望她不要再change mind. 文章结尾时，我还没接到她的电话。希望我的预感是错的。
Things can be so easy if we are all reasonable and work together.
算盘打错了。那个高高大大，勤勤快快的邻居几个月前搬走了。一个年轻的单身女人买了他的房子，成了我的背面邻居。我到了这个年轻女人的妈跨过到下的fence, 敲我家的后门，才知道我有了新邻居。
这个年轻女人的妈敲开我家的后门，对我说：We talked to HOA. HOA said the fence is the responsibility of whoever the fence is facing. 我马上说：No, it’s common sense. We share the fence. We share the responsibility. 我还进一步说：The fence on my left isn’t fencing me. I took care of it after IKE. 她说：No, it should be their responsibility since the fence is facing them. 我说：It doesn’t work that way. Both parties need privacy.
So we should share the responsibility.
最后她同意她和我各找个报价，我们share the responsibility (cost). 我们彼此留了电话。过了几天，我打电话给她，问她有没有报价。她说她这几天很忙。她又开始说 HOA 说是我的责任，并说我应该要那个邻居来承担cost since last time they didn’t pay. 我有点茫然，我那个邻居不相干。我说:it’s between me and them. Now we are talking about us, the fence between us. 她又坚持根据HOA是我的责任。我说：If you have that page, I would like to take a look. 她说：You can call HOA. 我说：I don’t need to. Commen sense tells me we share the fence. We share the responsibility. 然后我告诉她我得到的报价。她说：That’s too high. 我说：I know. You are welcome to get another cost. I would like to have a better cost,too. 她说：It’s your responsibility. You should get the cost.
交涉无果，我意识到她就是不愿承担责任。我决定只做minimum repair. 昨天上午叫了俩个人做简单的修复。不久接到她的电话。从ID看是她，不太想接电话。估计她有话说。她既然不出钱，也就无须听她的。但最后还是接了。
她说她在她女儿的家帮她打扫卫生。我应付地说她是个好妈妈。她又说她刚和我的两个工人谈过。他们同意replace the whole fence for 500。我说：That’s awesome. 她又说：It’s really your responsibility. 我说：No, everyone I talked to, they say it’s shared responsibility. Some people even went to court for this. Charge also says it’s shared responsibility. 今天她不是那么fighting. 她说：If that’s Ok with you, I pay 250, you pay 250, do you want to replace the whole fence? 我说：I would love to. 我本来就是这样打算的，何况她的cost 比我的好得多。她又说：Let me talk to my daughter, see what she says, then I’ll let you know.
几分钟后，她又打回来说： My daughter said since the pretty side)smooth side) of the fence faces you, you should pay more. 我说：it really doesn’t bother pretty or urgly. All I care is privacy. If it’s big deal to her, she can have the pretty side. She sounds like a pretty little girl. 很快地她说：OK。 Let me talk to the guys.
我没介入他们的negociation.因为既然是她在和the guys work out the deal , 那两个工人知道她对他们负责。最后我被告知两个工人第二天上午开工， 也就是今天
上午。 她会在今天上午9：30到现场。
俩个工人今天上午打电话给我，说是去买材料。等他们把材料运到，正好下大雨。他们决定明天在干。到了11：00她没到，也没电话。 我给两个工人大电话。要他们明天没收到她的payment 之前不要开工。希望她不要再change mind. 文章结尾时，我还没接到她的电话。希望我的预感是错的。
Things can be so easy if we are all reasonable and work together.
Of course, I paid every thing.