书报摘要 (女儿培养篇）

"The strongest and most consistent predictor of children's mental health, adjustment, happiness, and well being is the level of involvement of their parents in their life. Children with involved parents do better in school, feel better about themselves, are less likely to develop emotional problems, and are less likely to take risks or get into trouble. There is nothing more important to your child's psychological development than your deep and sustained involvement. This is true whether your child is an infant, a teenager or at any point in between." -by Psychologist, Laurence Steinburg

2/22/2012
转自文学城有关 密歇根州立大学华裔女学者秦宝莲 的研究结果。

秦宝莲曾对两组新移民家庭进行了长达5年的深入访谈。两组孩子学业都非常优秀，但一组孩子心理很健康，而另外一组很不健康。

经过分析，秦宝莲得出结论：如果家长不盲从分数、注重与孩子交流的方式、且更多地去理解孩子的压力和挑战的话，那孩子就能学业成就和心理健康兼得。

秦宝莲还谈道，她曾与18个成绩优秀的孩子进行多次交流，发现家长对孩子有高期望本身不是问题，问题是表达方式。秦宝莲说，家长总唠叨学习，一旦孩子成绩不好，家长的反应激烈。此外，家长的攀比心理也会对孩子形成心理压力。