Some comments on 再议父母的偏心问题：偏心不等于虐待，且偏心难于避免(退隐老妖)

Some comments on sub-comments:"不一定。是不是自己带大的有很大关系。" from金色风铃: 我的情况和你的很类似！有时觉得父母偏心是一大祸害，就那我说吧，由此会造成悲观不自信的心理障碍。更荒唐的，为了赶在独生子nu政策落实之前（在宁夏），借口说“为了不让我妹孤独，再为她生一个作伴”，明显把我排除在外，只可惜又是一个nu娃，哈哈！儿时对父母偏心就当是小人计魉，他们还时不时的把我和我妹比，比的不是学习成绩，而是穿带上，因为我的新衣服都是外婆，阿姨，舅舅们买的，my mom always complained that my sister wore my old clothes。还有令人费解的，my parents feel very guilty for and owed something to my sister because she didnt go to college. Actually, it was not my parents' fault since my sister just dont like study more... From my childhood memory, my parents liked to make troubles in the family because of me since they were back to my grandma home. I can say that one of my reasons that I wanted to stay in USA is being far away from them. It sounds very sad, doesnt it?   I hope that good and reponsible parents should learn how important raising children is in a balance way and then build up more and more healthy generations not only in physically but also in mentally!