The Look of Love ( 3 )

I can hardly wait to hold you,

 Feel my arms around you.

 How long I have waited,

Waited just to love you,

Now that I have found you,
 Don't ever go. (Diana Krall)

After opening the profile, in fact, I did not log in the account that often and had never searched for anyone or taken initiative to send anyone a message. But, surprisingly I did receive quiet a few messages. Usually, I reviewed the profile of a sender first, and if I found somehow interesting, I replied them and chatted with them mainly through the Instant Messenger provided by the website.

Funny enough, at the beginning, most of the people I was communicating with are married men. Some claimed that they had problem with the current relationship, but would not break it until they found a new one; some said both parties had been upset by their marriage, but did not want to break it because of some reason, e.g. to wait for kids getting older; some were just looking for fun. 

Of course, I clearly told them that I have no interest on any married men at all. In the mean time, I complained that to YM. YM asked me what I put in the file of what relation you are seeking to. Chat and Friend, I replied, because in mind that’s a start for a relationship. That was the problem, YM concluded, you should put Long Relationship there. 

 
Listening to her, I changed the request on my profile accordingly and since I have never received messages from married one. It did work pretty well.

Couple of weeks after the profile opening, before I changing my request for long term relationship, once I logged in it while I was talking with my friend Connie on phone. I just upload a few pictures but keep them closed to everyone, and I was going to show Connie those pictures. Suddenly, I received an Instant Message.

 

- You like to have chat?

- Why you said so? I did not get him at all

- Your profile says that you are seeking for a chat and friend.

- Oh, that’s it.

In a mood of joking, I clicked his profile, gave the link to Connie and let her review it together with me. Connie kept giving me her comments.

-         His English is pretty good
-         Oh, he listed 13 requirements! But that’s not bad. At least he knows what he wants.
-         Like music, like swimming, like cycling, like dancing…seems a very good match with you
-         He does look athletic as his profile says, and his kids are very good looking
……

 
While she was commenting, I started my chat with him by asking one by one whether he himself meets those requirements. Of course, he did, and that was a pretty interesting and good start of such a conversation.

Since soon after he meeting me, he had deleted his profile on that website. Both of us could not remember completely about those 13 points.  We only could list below most probable ones.
 

1. Psychological healthy

2. Love different kinds of music

3. Like cycling

4. Like swimming

5. Not still in love with ex

6. No issues with pervious relationships

7. Have a job

8. Like dancing

9. 38 years old or younger

10. Not Internet addicted

11. Might have one or two kids ((if you don’t, you must accept that I have two kids part time. But I’m not looking for a replacement mother)

12. Not smoke

13. Not alcoholic or take drugs

[OrangeBread]

赞！

[longhairr]

回复worldling的评论:
谢谢哇博士.欢迎MM常来园子玩.:)

[worldling]

Wow~~~ "理性、成熟、身心健康、爱运动、爱孩子、有生活情趣（爱跳舞、爱音乐）的男人" indeed!

Happy for you!

[寒枝]

回复longhair的评论:
前一段时间换电脑，把原来的收藏夹丢了：（

好不容易找回来，可惜错过了很多！不过，今后就会常来啦！

[warmginger]

俺也觉得可以提出这样条件的人，一定本身不错呀。。。

我有好几条都不合格。internet addicted。 没有ex husband (这个可不可以加分啊？）, 但是有ex bf, 而且有时还记着（甚至还记者不是我的ex的人。。。。更糟糕。。。）。。。 不会跳舞。也不肯定是否psychologically healthy.。。

[longhairr]

回复Liketoread的评论:
来自男同胞的肯定,那一定是价值不同的. :)

SS,你们说,男同胞的评价和女同胞的评价,哪个更可能正确,价值更高?嘿嘿...

[Liketoread]

等下文。

快要地球上找不到了的好男人。好幸运，好好真惜。

[longhair]

回复寒枝的评论:
MM好久没见,可好? 是偶尔来访还是一直在潜水呀? :)

[寒枝]

我也等着下篇了！

[longhairr]

回复陈默的评论:
他要是看得懂JJ的话,一定要高兴死了. 这些要求他自己倒是符合的.不过,跟他这些要求的理性、成熟比,他其实挺孩子气的...以后有空可以举例说明..嘿嘿...

合适的人是可遇不可求,那真是的.

[longhairr]

回复歌儿的评论:
你那咋叫INTERNET ADDICTED呢.不会游泳可以学,正好给他机会教呀..跳舞吗兴趣也是可以培养的嘛..

我问MM如果看了这些要求还会不会要他,是因为如果是以前,我看到这么一点点要求颇多的,可能会不接受的 -- 你以为你是谁呀?!而且这么现实,全没情调...嘿嘿..

[longhairr]

回复punny的评论:
hehe...当时最得心那条是"I'm not looking for a replacement mother"...我可是没信心做后妈的.

[longhairr]

回复我就是的评论:
这张PP真是好呀...赫本是我的至爱呀...

[陈默]

长发妹妹好福气。他自己一定也是这样的人，才会有同等的要求。

这样理性、成熟、身心健康、爱运动、爱孩子、有生活情趣（爱跳舞、爱音乐）的男人真是可遇不可求啊。

期待下文。祝福！

[歌儿]

长发我彻底失去竞争力了，我不会游泳，还不爱跳舞，另外我是internet addicted. :)

[punny]

恩，恩，每一条都很不错呢。

[我就是]

期待。。。。

[longhairr]

回复歌儿的评论:
公主之前点名说这个就行...如果当初你看到这些个要求,你会感觉如何?会觉得还行不?...嘿嘿...

[longhairr]

回复xpHan的评论:
哪里好呀?1,2,3,4,5...显得条理很清的样子,不过一点也不风趣嘛.

MM知道哪一句最得我心吗?..嘿嘿...

[longhairr]

回复warmginger的评论:
hehe...don't you think he was too selective? :)

There was one requirement, I almost could not match.

[歌儿]

期待下文。。。

[xpHan]

his profile is good, very good. I like. heeheeee
长发的love seat!!!

[warmginger]

These requirements are good...

[warmginger]

长发的沙发:)