The Look of Love ( 2 )

I can hardly wait to hold you,

Feel my arms around you.

How long I have waited,

Waited just to love you,

Now that I have found you,

Don't ever go. (Diana Krall)
  

Knowing that dating site was because of YM; knowing YM was because of Wenxuecity. She once left a message on my blog that she is a single mom in Montreal with a little girl and maybe we can become friends. I added her to my MSN, and then we started to chat online, online only and became friends indeed.

One day, she was very happy and told me that she had met someone known from a dating site. He was the second man she met from that website, and he satisfied her completely. She continually encouraged me to register there as well.

One night after chatting with her, I went to visit that website. As always, there are some fields asking for the basic information, such as City, Sign, Height, Age, Ethnicity, Body Type, Religion,  Smoke or not, Want kids or not,  Man or Woman you are seeking to, What relationship is looking for, etc. Then come Interest and About You section.

Not sure energized by what, I was in such a good mood to open a profile immediately and found myself no difficulties to write the following directly there at once (God knows that I always feel headache to write those kind of self introduction).  I only did some minor editions afterwards.
 
Interest: Traveling, Photographing, Dancing, Writing and Sports

Nowadays, almost everyone might say that he/she likes to travel, likes to take pictures and likes whatever I have claimed as my interests above. However, when I said it, I really meant it. I haven't traveled to many countries, but most of those countries that I have ever been are very big. Therefore, in terms of area, I've been more than 1/3 of the global continents. My goal is to reach 1/2 and more; of course, 100% is only an unrealizable dream. :)

I like to write, most of time in my mother language, Chinese. I like to dance, but haven't danced for a long time, especially for those ballroom dances. I like lots of sports, e.g. badminton, bowling, bicycling, tennis, rock climbing, swimming, etc, however, unfortunately, due to the physical constrainers (not tall and strong), I'm not professional at any of them. :(

Moreover, I like to take pictures, not only using a nice camera, but also using my eyes and my heart. So my pictures show my values, attitude and style toward the world, people and life.

ohoh...I have said so much, but nothing about my personality yet. It's easy to put a lot of descriptive words here. But, I think, it might be better for you to figure out by yourself later on. Don't you think so? :))

因为校园恋情恋出来的是一个极想结婚的小孩，所以，婚姻有得算是蛮早的，可惜是很短命。之后的十多年里，当然也有这样那样的故事，不过全是失败收场，伤的体无完肤。有很长一段时间，虽然因为好强的性格，表面上一如既往的风风光光，心里疼得无以复加；人前照例活泼开朗，人后日日以泪洗面。这也是当初突然毅然决定出国的缘由之一。

出国前去了一趟西藏，悟了不少。待出到外面，发现了自己想要的生活，心里也越来越平静。后来有了小朋友，就更是安安心心地一个人过日子了。其实本身我就不是一个可以把找另一半当任务来完成的人，所以，一直都并没有真正去 ——找 —— 过。不过，以前虽然也是个很独立的人，精神和感情上却总是很渴求依赖，以歌儿的话说，就是总觉得自己是为爱而生。后来的领悟引来了我的放弃，放弃了心里对感情依赖的期盼，于是，心就安了。心安了，日子也就快乐起来；日子快乐起来，生活也就精彩起来。除了很偶然很偶然的时候，完全没有了一个人的失落。

很长一段时间，直到现在，我MSN的留言一直挂着这么一句话：If a woman lives for love, she will eventually lose it; if she lives for a life, she will eventually get what she wants most –love. 挂上去的时候只是为了鼓励自己，因为那时候我根本看不到我的爱会在哪里. 不过，就一直相信，他会在那里，就等我们可以相遇的那天。现在继续挂在那里，是为了鼓励朋友们，因为至少有一个活生生的例子验证了它。

[longhair]

- "放弃了心里对感情依赖的期盼，于是，心就安了",确实如此 -sansemao- ♀ (68 bytes) (142 reads) 3/31/09
真正的独立和快乐从这开始。
勇敢那，单亲妈妈。很佩服长发妹妹。

- 真正的对立和快乐从这开始, 色猫英明! -longhair- ♀ (36 bytes) (34 reads) 3/31/09

- 古人说“无欲则刚”，人就是有欲望，有所求，才会失落呀。。。 -guaiwolf- ♀ (0 bytes) (9 reads) 3/31/09


- 回复：古人说“无欲则刚”，人就是有欲望，有所求，才会失落呀。。。 -longhair- ♀ (40 bytes) (26 reads) 3/31/09


- 呵呵 是啊 不过要是完全失去欲望 生活也毫无希望和乐趣可言 把握重点 -guaiwolf- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 3/31/09


- 回复：嘿嘿...是呀, 就是个度的问题,... -longhair- ♀ (55 bytes) (19 reads) 3/31/09

- 1.Emotional independence is more important for an -asd_123- ♀ (88 bytes) (67 reads) 3/31/09
adult woman.2.To love is to give, so being needy is not a way to show one is in love. :)

- 回复：1.Emotional independence is more important for an -longhair- ♀ (73 bytes) (29 reads) 3/31/09


- 大顶长发姑娘，也大顶这句话。快写啊，加油。很有趣的写法。 -nature17- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 3/31/09


- 谢谢! 很不伦不类的写法. :) -longhair- ♀ (48 bytes) (12 reads) 3/31/09


- very true! The key to happiness and good opportunity is in our o -红红的秋枫- ♀ (0 bytes) (10 reads) 3/31/09


- 很精彩，期待下文！ -guaiwolf- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 3/31/09


- 回复：很精彩，期待下文！ -檀香橄榄- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 4/1/09


- 俺这大老粗，有点看不懂，谁给翻译一下 :-| -ne0987- (0 bytes) (8 reads) 3/31/09

- 没关系, 看中文的部分就行了. :) -longhair- ♀ (35 bytes) (20 reads) 3/31/09

- 回复：没关系, 看中文的部分就行了. :) -longhair- ♀ (58 bytes) (21 reads) 3/31/09

- 中文俺也看不懂， MM太小资乐 :)) -ne0987- (0 bytes) (3 reads) 3/31/09


- 现在还称得上太小资呀, 受宠若惊呢 :)) -longhair- ♀ (63 bytes) (13 reads) 3/31/09

- ? 俺这大老粗，有点看不懂，谁给翻译一下 :-| -黛诺公主- ♀ (40 bytes) (29 reads) 3/31/09

- 公主也看不懂? 哦, 这问题大了. :) -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 3/31/09

- 跟着瞎起哄。喜欢姐姐的生活态度。re:公主也看不懂? 哦, 这问题大了. -黛诺公主- ♀ (38 bytes) (13 reads) 3/31/09


- 顶好文! 女人不应为爱活着, 才能得到爱, 很好的体验! -试霜- ♀ (0 bytes) (9 reads) 3/31/09

- 的确是很好的领悟, 不过, -longhair- ♀ (97 bytes) (65 reads) 3/31/09


- 出国前没去西藏是我的错，现在真是难排时间。 -糖果果- ♀ (40 bytes) (18 reads) 3/31/09

- 回复：嘿嘿...别说, 那还真是个让人悟的好地方 -longhair- ♀ (42 bytes) (25 reads) 3/31/09

- 开场白，确实比较长。（当然是对俺这种习惯快节奏的） -adacat- ♀ (0 bytes) (3 reads) 3/31/09

- 这篇已经不是开场白了，是故事的一部分。。嘿嘿。。。 -longhair- ♀ (95 bytes) (17 reads) 4/1/09


- 顶长法！文革时说的不破不立其实蛮有哲理的。‘破’的是不必要的自我 -seasickyetdocked- ♀ (0 bytes) (26 reads) 3/31/09

- 谢谢。不破不立其实蛮有哲理的...可惜那时候被人滥用了。 ：） -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 4/1/09


8226; 喜欢你的生活态度。期待你的网恋故事 -小葡萄妈妈- ♀ (0 bytes) (3 reads) 4/1/09

[longhairr]

回复素月-2006-的评论:
很高兴能有MM的共鸣. MM关于两个人生活的那些感悟,我很多也很有同感的.

[素月-2006-]

回想过去的日子，深有同感

[longhairr]

回复南山松的评论:
hehe....looking forward to seeing their profiles then. :)

[longhairr]

回复warmginger and xpHan的评论:

No problem, this I will mention in my travelling notes, which is not complicated. However, I still have long jouney to finish my pictures.

[xpHan]

回复warmginger的评论:
把大男人的旅游观都顺道改变了一下--这也是很好的话题。。 上旅游的片片时，有空的话，也可以顺便讲讲啊。。。----期待中ing.(给长发JJ的功课挺多哈.:)) 能者多劳哈.:))

[南山松]

写的不错。
歌儿，暖姜快去注册吧。

[warmginger]

把大男人的旅游观都顺道改变了一下--这也是很好的话题。。 上旅游的片片时，有空的话，也可以顺便讲讲啊。。。

[longhairr]

回复mycereal的评论:
麦片MM,JJ哪里好了?...那天MSN大会还刚坦白过,我就头发一样东西好的..嘿嘿...

[longhairr]

回复xpHan的评论:
GER写的应该是差不多的意思吧,所以我说她开始悟了呀...嘿嘿..

MM对那POROFILE的评价也太高了点吧,仅次于一人呀(不是DAN)...我汗ing...其实也就是一通大白话嘛.

[longhairr]

回复warmginger的评论:
MM说的极是,的确要有自己喜欢的东西来给自己的生活带来真的质感.而这东西是什么, 并不总是显而易见. 有时侯,是很不容易明白知道的...其实人并不是一开始就完全了解自己的.

对我来说,没RR之前那东西是旅行,后了有了RR,当然RR就成了主角.不过,就一直在努力统一两者.这点上循序渐进,成绩斐然呀..嘿嘿...这次一行下来,把大男人的旅游观都顺道改变了一下. :)

[longhairr]

回复阿贝的评论:
希望每个SS都活得精彩,一个人的也好,两个的也好,拖小尾巴的也好,不拖的也好...这样,我们的阿贝MM就不用心疼得睡不着了. :)

[longhairr]

回复陈默的评论:
JJ那里有很多的心情故事,而且还有很多时尚贴士,才是好看得紧呢.

旅行的PP正在整理中,出来了一定告诉JJ.

[longhairr]

回复歌儿的评论:
你妈妈就要回国了? 那你可要失落一阵子了. 那个网站应该全世界都有吧.

不过,就象你说的,一个站卖了一张中大奖的,大家都去买,结果再没人中了.所以,那个网站只是一个可能而已,我因为它成了,所以推荐这个.我那个女朋友是在吧撞到的,所以,他们俩就多次鼓动甚至陪我去吧.去了,也认识了人,不过,不是对的那个.结果来自一个以前从不知道的网站.

所以说吧, 其实缘分到了,再哪都可能的,大马路上碰上也可能的. GER安心等就是了..嘿嘿..

[longhairr]

回复Liketoread的评论:
谢谢爱读多次光临...名人堂

嘿嘿..瞧瞧,我这是给根竿就顺着爬了....杆别太多哦,想爬都爬不过来了.

[longhairr]

回复我就是的评论:
以前听人说"爱自己,再爱别人"很不以为然,觉得自己应该全心爱别人,自己也需要别人那样来爱...后来明白了,自己是需要爱自己的,不能全指望别人来爱...(听起来怎么这么饶口..嘿嘿..)

[punny]

期待下文。你们那几个，快快行动起来哦，别让我们跟着阿贝姐姐一起心疼 ：）

[Liketoread]

自我介绍写的好风趣， 好可爱！

这里跟名人堂是的！

陈默，大才女。在此幸会。“南京的大罗卜”让人流鼻血：=）。

[mycereal]

长发姐姐真好啊。

[xpHan]

你在dating site 的自我介绍太精彩乐,文字生动,引人入胜.不愧是个好写手啊!而且还利用了人类的好奇心,让人想入非非,高!:)))
歌儿,暖姜快去注册啊.你们也都是好写手耶.加油!

[xpHan]

长发JJ真棒!
'后来的领悟引来了我的放弃，放弃了心里对感情依赖的期盼，于是，心就安了。心安了，日子也就快乐起来；日子快乐起来，生活也就精彩起来。除了很偶然很偶然的时候，完全没有了一个人的失落。'=歌儿的那篇文里的放弃,应该是表达同样的意思哈?
稀饭!很稀饭!

[warmginger]

也很认同这句话:-) 但是还要真真切切的付诸行动。 我的心得：要确实有自己喜欢的东西。。。 这些东西给自己的生活带来真的质感。。。

想去找长发JJ学跳舞！

[阿贝]

"If a woman lives for love, she will eventually lose it; if she lives for a life, she will eventually get what she wants most –love. "

-- 很喜欢很认同这句话。：）
长发妹妹活得精彩。

[陈默]

长发妹，喜欢你的故事。很好的开始。

还等着看你旅行的PP啊。

祝好！

[歌儿]

你的例子，真的让我觉得很安心呢。:))
我先歇段日子，等我妈妈回国了，我就去那个网站注册一下看看。那里在澳洲的人多吗？

[Liketoread]

以为能POWER READ。 发现需要时间慢慢看。有时间在回来。

[我就是]

沙发
喜欢这个真正的开始！
其实女人就是该为自己活着