
Divorced?Don'teventhinkofremarryinguntilyoureadthis!By HaraEstroffMarano,publishedonMarch01,2000-lastreviewedonFebruary11,2010
Divorceratesprovethatconventionalwisdomiswrong:Thedirtylittlesecretisthatwhenitcomestorelationships,experiencedoesn'tcount.Expertstakeacloselookatwhywedon'tlearnfromourmistakesandhowwecanstart--rightnow.Americansareanoptimisticlot.Perhapsnowhereisouroptimismmoreap...[
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By HarryK.Wexler,Ph.D.
Well,anotherValentine'sDayisuponusandthoseofusinour50sand60shaveseenmanycomeandgo.Hopefully,wecanallrecallatleastoneFebruary14thfullofyoungsweetfeelingsofdiscoveryofanothersweetsoulwhowewantedsomuchtoconnecttoandsay"Iloveyou"withamixofhopeforacceptanceanddreadofpossiblerejection.ThoughmanyinourgenerationmaybespendingthisFebruary14thwithaspecialsomeone,agoodprop...[
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ByElliotD.Cohen,PhD
Fearofcommitmentisrootedinthedemandforperfectioninanimperfectuniverse.Thefutureisuncertain;thingsdonotalwayshappenasyouwish;therearesomethingsthatarenotinyourcontrol;andyoucannotknowall.Thisisthehumancondition.
“IfIcommittohim/her,thenImightmisstheopportunitytomeetsomeonebetter.”Howoftenhavethesewordsbeenuttered?Thesewordsarethewordsoffearofcommitment,ademandforperf...[
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By LynnTaylor
WithValentine'sDayapproachingthisweekend,it'sanotherreminderthatmanycouplesmaynotfeelveryfestive-orromantic-giventheirjobsituationthesedays.Infact,inmanyconversationsthesedays,Ihear workplace andjobconcernsbecomingall-consuminginpeople'slives.Thirteenhoursinafive-dayworkweekarespentworryingaboutone'sjobfateintheworkplace,andsimilar studies areinmyear...[
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By GordonS.Livingston
Thereareanumberofactivitiesthatpeopleengageinbecausetheyareattachedtotheideaofdoingthemmorethantheactivityitself.Ifyougotoanyskiresortyouwilldiscoverthosewhospendmoretimeinthelodgethanontheslopes.Somepeoplejoinyachtclubsprimarilyforthesocialopportunitiesratherthanthesailing,whichcanbestrenuous.Certainpursuits,especiallyiftheyrequ...[
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By GretchenRubin
Ihadagreattimespeakingatthe92ndStreetYlastnight.It’sanorganizationthatpullsinanextraordinaryrangeoffascinatingspeakers,soIwasthrilledtobeaskedtogiveatalkthere.Oneissuecameupduringthequestion-and-answerperiod,andI’msurprisedthatIhaven’tthoughtaboutitmorecarefullybeforenow–becauseit’sanobviouschallengeto happiness.Howdoyouinsulateyourselffromthepeoplewhodragd...[
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By ShankarVedantam
Oneofthemoreperniciousdimensionsofthehidden brain isthewayinwhichitpromptsmanypeopletofulfillself-defeating stereotypes abouttheirgroups.Ifyoutellaclassroomofstudentsthatmentendtooutperformwomeninmathtests—rightbeforeyouadministeramathtest—thewomenintheclassarelikelytoperformmorepoorlyonthemathtestthantheywouldifyouhadnotsaidanything.Youdo...[
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夫君子之行,静以修身,俭以养德,非淡(澹)泊无以明志,非宁静无以致远。夫学须静也,才须学也,非学无以广才,非志无以成学。淫慢则不能励精,险躁则不能冶性。年与时驰,意与日去,遂成枯落,多不接世,悲守穷庐,将复何及!
夫酒之设,合理致情,适体归性,礼终而退,此和之至也。主意未殚,宾有余倦,可以至醉,无致迷乱。
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By MichaelUngar,Ph.D.
Whilemost parents wanttheirchildrentobesensitive,kind,caringindividuals,there'ssometroublingresearchonprimaryschoolchildrenthathasbeendonebyThomasBoyceandhiscolleaguesattheUniversityofBritishColombia(notfarfromthesiteofthe2010WinterOlympics).Testingfor stress reactivityusingbiologicalmarkerslikecortisollevelsduringtesting,Boyceandhiscolleague...[
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By NicholasDiFonzoCreated Feb102010-5:42amIt'sbeenacoupleofmonthssinceTigerWoodsprivateaffairsdominatednationalnews,andactivityonthisfronthasbynomeansceased.The gossip tsunamibeganwhenTigermanagedtomysteriouslysmashhiscarintoatree;hisgolf-club-wieldingwifethensmashedoutallthewindowsofthatcar.Theseeventsweredramaticandeye-catching,andheldallthemarksofadomesticconflict.Tablo...[
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