我欣赏的男人和女人

城中出现了一道命题作文“我欣赏的男人”，忍不住也来玩玩， also per my friend Helen’s request.

我欣赏的男人：

自信豁达：和这样的男人交往如沐春风，如浴阳光。女人不用担心哪一句话说得不对会惹得对方不高兴；不用担心由于自己失误造成的困窘会被对方耻笑。这种特质往往还会感染身边的女人，使她们也逐渐自信豁达起来。男人给女人的踏实安全和被尊重的感觉来源于他的自信豁达。

责任心和事业心：在我的理念中，一个没有事业整天顾家的男人比有事业而不太顾家的男人更可怕，男人没有事业就像是鸟儿没有翅膀。事业可大可小，重要的是做得开心做的投入。没有责任心的男人就像是没有灵魂，失去诚信的人，很难想象一个女人敢把她的一生交给一个没有诚信的男人。

乐观和幽默：幽默不是滑稽，不是耍贫嘴，是自信豁达和睿智乐观的体现。人生不如意十有八九，真正能做到常想一二的，非乐观的人莫属。乐观幽默的人善于从日常生活中发现美，欣赏美，善于把hardship转变为enjoy，非生活的历练所不能及。

兴趣爱好：都说修身齐家治国平天下，没有兴趣爱好，怎么修身养性，怎么博学多才？打球，游泳，读书，写作，绘画，集邮。。。都可以，只要五毒不包括在内。

我欣赏的女人：

自信宽容：是的，女人也要自信豁达。Remember as a woman, one is supposed to stand side by side with the man, to support the man. That is the task assigned by the super nature. 宽容是温柔的内涵之一。这种宽容是有原则的，不是把自己当成受虐狂。温柔不是发嗲，也不全是小鸟依人。温柔是一种外柔内刚。不能总要求男人在生活中扮演父兄的角色，哄着宠着女人，有时候要反过来。人嘛，总希望被关注，被宠爱，被体贴，in terms of these, men are little different from women, personal opinion.

率真善良：女人的可爱在于，即使到了耄耋之年，仍保持着一颗少女般年轻的心（太夸张了），心年轻人就年轻。善良是女人的本质，女人一切的美好源于她善良的本性。我欣赏率直的女人，不矫揉造作。

内外兼修：女人不是花瓶，well-rounded 的女人比单纯的漂亮女人更有魅力和生命力。女人的美应该不只在于她的脸旦和外表，更主要的在于她的头脑和精神。As a woman, one doesn't need to be pretty but neat and decent.

其实，我欣赏的男人和女人的标准很相似。是不是要求太高了，太理想化了？生活中这样的男人和女人很多，只是每个人在每个方面的表现程度不同罢了。所以说好男人好女人就在你我身边。

 

 

 

 

[melly]

回复BWW的评论:

Thanks for dropping lines. I know that you are clear about the answer but try to tease a bit.

Yes, women do love handsome men though everybody had her own criteria. As men prefer charming girls over pretty ones, women are more interested in genteel guys than those physical attractive ones. I do not think a narrow-minded, arrogant or self-abased man has any chance to be popular even if he is physically attractive. On the other hand, the inside culture will be manifested by ourside temperament, which will last longer. So to both men and women, there is no shortcut to be charming but self-training physically and spiritually.

My two cents for talking.

[BWW]

为什么不把英俊， 伟岸， 潇洒放在里面？ 您是故意忘了， 还是觉得不言而喻?


俺觉得女人应该喜欢英俊的男人。 您要不同意， 我跟您急！！！

[melly]

回复flysnow68的评论:

you are definitely one of those whom I admire.

[flysnow68]

好样的！我欣赏你的欣赏。。。~_~。。。

[melly]

回复snake_sky的评论:

Thank you, I love it too, especailly the way she looked at.

[snake_sky]

I like that painting so much! "girl with a pearl earring".

[melly]

回复林贝卡的评论:

Thank you Rebecca.

[林贝卡]

写得好。

[melly]

回复yunyan的评论:

There is no right or wrong ansers. Different people have different idea about men and women. Those are only my personal oppinion, somehow unrealistic. Yes, you are right about matching. Only people who match each other spititually are happy and comfortable with each other.

Thanks for supporting.

[melly]

回复Flamenco_Girl的评论:

I agree with you. I do not care much about his/her physical appearance though he/she should be neat and decent. What I care is his/her temperament which has to be cultivated little by little.

[yunyan]

男人和女人都有优缺点，相互欣赏才是最重要的，相互欣赏也要相互匹配。标准不重要， 对吗？说错了请海涵

[Flamenco_Girl]

I've been looking at this topic for a while, and ask myself, what's really 我欣赏的男人和女人.

同样，我想我欣赏的男人和女人有相同之处。那多是一种气质，与生俱来，再加上后天的发扬光大。

[melly]

回复fangyuanzhi的评论:

also difficult and ideal standard. hehe..

[fangyuanzhi]

好标准。

[melly]

回复wenjuyuan的评论:

I think one has to learn how to appreciate others, especialy in simple daily life.

[melly]

回复彩云满天飞的评论:

Thank you so very much. I take it as a compliment. What I wrote was based on several images in my mind.

[wenjuyuan]

应该再加上一条∶你所欣赏的 这种“男人/女人”有慧眼并能欣赏你所欣赏的这种“女人/男人.”Unfortunately, life often is not fair for these mem and women in terms of the kinds of spouses they have (based on my limited observations).

[彩云满天飞]

有品味~~~

[melly]

回复漩鞘的评论:

Thank you 漩鞘 for support. People are happy to be with those who have the matching personalities, either compatible or similar.In addition, self-training to fit in each other also counts.

[melly]

回复blhw72的评论:

Doesn't the woman I described here sound familiar?

I really do not think those are unreachable traits. I also believe what we need is to sensitize our sensors to sense the excellent characters. We all are wonderful, aren't we?

[漩鞘]

越琢磨越觉得你总结的非常好。

[blhw72]

A+, happy with the credit?

Whoops, excuse me, just notice you said"per friend Helen's request", not "assignment". Guess I could never have the previlege to be a teacher's teacher. Sigh...;-)

I echo your thoughts. It's actually easy to appreciate other human beings once you see a shining spot on him/her. You know why, because we stand away to watch.

When getting closer, you might think differently. It's just like you are looking at a work of an art. Different angles bring you different views.

[melly]

回复sweetie遐思的评论:

Thank you for comments.

I thought I was daydreaming again. hehe...Now I am sure I am not alone. Just kidding.

These are guidelines to evaluate a man or a woman.People have differnet criteria, which also reflect what kind of person one wants to become. The most important thing is to take action. Am I right?

[sweetie遐思]

赞同.

说出了我心中的欣赏特征.其实,无论男女,为人的标准确实是大同小异的.