Criticism and compliment: which one is better?
Astonished by the beautiful color of my bloomy Christmas Cactus, my friend said it make him smell spring in the snowy ice-cold December. While another fiend asked to put the flower away as it might make his breath hard, as he is allergic to flower pollen.
When I showed a traditional noodle food popular in my hometown, somebody said it made them start to swallow their saliva, but others frowned at it and asked why your noodle was much wider?
So both criticism and compliment were received on the same thing. Criticism and compliment are the indispensable parts in one’s life. Every person is experiencing criticism and compliment day after day, year after year. One person may receive more criticism than compliment, or vice versa.
Criticism is usually harsh than compliment to take in. Human nature determined that a person takes compliment more easily and tends to resent the criticism. Though compliment makes a person more confident, both criticism and compliment have positive effects, and criticism sometime even has more positive effects and thus helps more on correcting his/her error and improving one’s performance.
How to react to criticism and compliment is critical important, and it is an art that needs a lifetime to learn and deploy. You may feel the hostility in the criticism received, but more attention should be paid to the concern being raised, rather than the altitude from the criticizer. Actually, it is the criticism from your competitors and foes that make you smarter and stronger, as well as avoiding or repeating errors. In the other hand, if there is no criticism, and all you hear is compliments, a wise would be on his alert.
Different person has different reaction to criticism and compliment. Therefore, how to present your comments, especially when the comment has the different voice which could be integrated as criticism, is also an art that deserves life-long time learning and practicing. A comment which is easily accepted, not matter it is criticism or compliment, should be called advice and can be regarded as wisdom.
In summary, both criticism and compliment could have positive effects. Accepting the concern in criticism is the source to provide a better way for the improvement. It is an art to make your comments acceptable. However, you can feel free to comment on this essay, because I am a person so humble that you won’t endure the guilty to criticize. Hahaha!