5 things you can do in the moment if you witness racial harassment
Here are five strategies that can help in the moment.
Distract
“Create a distraction to deescalate the situation,” May says. For example, you could do something that creates a disruption, like spill a drink or drop your personal items. While it might seem random, it “allows the person doing the harassing to second guess themselves and allows the person being harassed to get out of the situation,” she says.
Another way to distract is to simply start a conversation with the person being harassed about something totally unrelated (for example, ask for directions or the time), which takes the attention off of the person doing the harassing, May says. “What that does is helps to build safe space between you and the person being harassed,” she says.
Delegate
Find help from someone in a position of authority, or ask someone nearby if they can seek out someone to intervene, May suggests. This could be a manager, security guard, front desk person or flight attendant, for example.
Many people assume that they should delegate to the police in times of crisis, May says. “We advise that before you contact the police, you check in with the person being harassed first,” she says. “That’s because many folks, including people from communities of color, immigrants and trans folks, may not feel safer with police presence.”
Document
Recording an incident can be very useful, but it’s important to assess your own safety and make sure that the person being harassed is already being helped before you take out your phone to record, May says.
“Give that footage directly to the person being harassed,” May says, so that they can decide what to do with it. “You want the person who experienced that harassment to be in choice, not just to have their moment of trauma plastered on the nightly news without their consent.”
Delay
Wait and check in with the person who was harassed to make sure that they are okay, May says. “In moments where you don’t speak the same language as the other person, just going to stand next to them to show them that you’re with them and that you are going to make sure that they are safe, can be a powerful move.”
Direct
The last option is to directly create a boundary, by telling the person harassing to stop, and then turning your attention back to the person being harassed, May says. “Don’t get into a back-and-forth with the person doing the harassing,” which can escalate the incident, she says. “Don’t make it about them.”
Some examples of direct things you can say include: “That’s inappropriate,” “leave them alone” or “that’s racist.”
With all of these ways to intervene, it’s important to trust your own instincts, and make sure that you and the person being harassed are physically safe, May says.
