女孩子读书不是为了当主妇
(2010-05-07 09:20:37)
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最近的一些事件,让无忧更加觉得,女孩子读书不是为了烧火做饭看孩子,不是相夫教子当主妇,而是象男孩子一样,是为了将来自理,自立,自强,自己独当一面。
我们这些作妈妈的,由于什么原因,不能这样也就算了,但绝对不能因为自己做了家庭主妇,在家妈妈,就也鼓励女孩子也是如此,这是及其错误的。
首先工作的妈妈们,会更大的接触社会,了解社会,这样也就能更好培养孩子,教育孩子。
工作中,妈妈更有机会锻炼自己,提高自己,修养自己,强化自己,一旦你那个不是东西的男人找个小三什么的,你也有资本,和更多的机会也找个二爷。
人生中有好多难以料到的事情,一旦家里除了不可想象的天灾人祸,妈妈的那份工作,那份能力,就会显得是那么必要,那么有力。
无忧小时,没有了父亲,全家立即从一个乡里乡亲羡慕恭维的家庭变为孤儿寡母,举目无亲,饥寒交迫的破碎家庭,如果不是母亲的刚毅,坚强,能说会道,无忧很难想象我们兄弟几个也能走出穷乡僻壤,当工人的当工人,上北大的上北大,留学的留学。
把一个家庭全部,经济的,政治的,寄托在一个父亲身上,是很不理智的,就象投资都投资在一个目标上是一样的及其错误的。
即使是作家妈妈,也应该尽量走出去,比如作个义务工作什么,社区活动,慈善行为,从中积累经验,提高能力,广泛交往,一旦家里出了一些不测,也能立即顶起来,走出去,把一个家庭支撑起来。
无忧并不是对作家妈妈有什么看法,更不是小看作家妈妈,无忧只是自身体会以及周围朋友们发生的事情,有感而言,而无忧一直也是这么认为的,这样的交女友,这样的寻找太太,这样的培养两个宝贝女儿的。
看来无忧的两个宝贝女儿,正在朝着无忧的培养意识,健康美好的发展,两个宝贝女儿都很健美,独立,自强,自治,有英文短信为证。
这是十三岁的大女儿,美美,写给她的同学的电子信件,她是这个正在做的学习研究的项目的领头。
Hey John, it's me Shaomei. Ok, so this important email so please read this and email me back right away. So far I know that Jacob is pretty much done with his research and Sophia and George are working on it. I told them if they can't finish research by friday, they're meeting at my house on Sunday around 12:30. That way they can work on it at my house. I was wondering, when can you meet at my house so we can work on it? I really would appreciate if you can come on Sunday at 12:30. On friday, they are also meeting me in lab 208 to work earlier during lunch. Can you come too? One last thing, I need your flash drive so I can work on it at my house. When I work on it at school, I am going to need to use it at home because, I am going to take all of the researchers' research to write the group draft. And since you have a flash drive and I don't, and all of the work is on their, I am going to need it. Thank you so much John, please get back to me as soon as possible, I would appreciate it.
- Shaomei