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Changing is Permanent

(2009-07-10 13:48:36) 下一个



While I talked with my friend Stillwater over the phone, she told me this saying: “nothing is permanent but change”. Both of us feel it so true. Looking back to our lives, it is not difficult to find changes we have experienced, physically and psychologically.

Coincidently, I happened to read something very interesting about life span development after our talk. It was like I was watching my son to grow again, from an embryo to an infant; from a baby to a toddler and  a little boy; from only attaching to family members to independently and proactively making friends in school; from baby-talk to logical argument. Sometimes, I really wish I could stuff his little brain with all sorts of knowledge and skills. I also felt like I was envisioning his adolescence and adulthood, tall and handsome, determined and cooperative.

Meanwhile, I was looking back on my own life up to date. Yes, I’ve changed a lot too, and will change more in the future. Going to college, being a teacher, married, going abroad, making new friends, working for career, having my son….what an achievement. Although not perfect, I did accomplish all with my joy and sorrow, laugh and tears; a valuable life experience.

Upon reading the later stages of life span, I was like watching myself getting old, as what I see from my parents, with gray hair, wrinkles all over my face, and yet optimistic and discerning, which is what I expect after being trained in the college of society for a whole life.

Undoubtedly, we are not able to grow without adapting to changes. We change because we learn and experience. The good thing is we, as directed by our conscience, will change better. Change is like viruses, when it first hits you, you might be defeated or sick. However, your body also produces antibodies to against later attacks. While your body is getting stronger, so is your mind, no change would defeat you anymore. You would sincerely welcome any change, since it means a new beginning and hope.

(whim on weekend.)


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melly 回复 悄悄话 回复夜光杯的评论:

Point taken.

People tend to keep status qua too without environmental forces. It is natural.

Dogs have to change their appetite without *. Wolves don't have to love sheep, but get along with them while they are not hungry. Men, also women, are supposed to like those who are visually enjoyable, which is determined by hormone. Money is the motivation for average people, not to mention those who have power and approaches to get it easily.

We make the topic too broad. :-)

If I can't expect your showing up some day, I know you have changed. :-)))
夜光杯 回复 悄悄话 可我觉得很多东东是恒久不变的呀!

比如:狗改不了吃*; 狼永远不会爱上羊;阿扁当了总统照样贪;意大利总理贝卢斯科尼总是色迷迷的。。。:)))))))
melly 回复 悄悄话 回复归来的评论:

静水 is genius, so are you.

Actually interested in novelty is innate. Therefore, we must have been programed to be adaptive, as you said, we have the genes.
melly 回复 悄悄话 回复静水苍兰的评论:

Cool. You are so philosophical. :-)

Isn't it natural selection?
归来 回复 悄悄话 “nothing is permanent but change”. 静水 is genius.

I think person's blood contains changing DNA. :)
静水苍兰 回复 悄悄话 拜读))

改变,自身的改变,在这动态的世界里,其实每时每刻都在发生,无论我们对之有无感知或是否喜欢。改变的累积,最终塑造了我们各自独特的人生。
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