性,清洁,以及汽车

 

偶尔在广播里听到一个家庭性生活频繁度调查的结果,说是在加拿大各省夫妻间一周性生活不到一次的家庭占了多数;还有一项调查表明,很多妇女认为清洁工作(CLEANING)与性相比,清洁给他们带来更多快感.

 

我感到很意外,本来在我心里西方人对性的要求较为强烈,一周不到一次真的令人不敢相信.为写这篇文章我去网上再次证实,却读到其他调查显示,男女之间性生活的频率其实还是很高的,甚至是年纪较长的群体也不乏频繁有性生活之人.

 

不过另外的分类表明很多性生活都是婚外的,或者在单身之间,或者是婚外恋.调查结果可以看出相当一部分人对于性很随便,甚至是求刺激,在公共卫生间,停车场,电梯等处都是他们寻欢作乐的场所.最令我吃惊的是一个人自曝: 在教堂的PEW(条凳式座位上)和牧师的年少女儿性交.我内心其实真的很希望他只是在瞎说,夸耀.

 

婚内由于繁琐的家务以及因此而起的口角使疲惫的夫妇对于性生活的兴趣渐渐减低,对于女人来说,清洁工作给她们带来的回报感高过了性生活.

 

婚外性生活看来情况则完全不同.人们更加随意,轻松,无需负担责任,因而频率远远高过婚内性生活.从这些结果就可以看到这个社会败坏到什么程度.人们只求鱼水之欢,而不愿负起应有的责任.这种心灵的败坏必然会影响到人们的长期生活质量.

 

弃婴现象亦不少,有的弃婴因为长时间没人照顾而饿死,或者感染疾病夭折.针对这个事实,温哥华的圣保罗医院今年在医院里开始设置弃婴处,在僻静的地方备有摇篮,玩具以供不愿或无法抚养孩子,又不愿留下信息的母亲们放置婴儿.工作人员会定时去那儿察看.医院也安排了志愿者照看弃婴,直到为他们找到合适的去处.

 

TIMES(美国时代周刊?)的调查则显示英国的夫妇当中性生活次数虽然减少,但质量却提高了.看来英国人民比加拿大人民幸福指数要高.

 

QUTED

Times Online marriage and sex survey

Darling, that was wonderful: British couples reveal the quantity of sex after parenthood may be down but the quality is up

 

In all, 1,675 respondents - 54% of them male - filled in the survey on the Times Online’s Alpha Mummy blog. While not strictly scientific - because the respondents were self-selected - it painted a reassuring picture of what happens to romance after having children. The majority of parents said they had sex more than once a month; and 63% said the frequency of their love-making ranged from several times a week to two to three times a month. For 46%, love-making sessions lasted 20-45 minutes, while 34% made love for up to 20 minutes and 3% for more than an hour.

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article3997517.ece

UNQUOTED

 

还有一些来源显示频繁,安全的性生活可给人们在身心带来很多好处:

·         长寿 - Lower mortality rates.

·         减少前列腺癌的几率 - Reduced risk of prostate cancer.

·         改善形体姿态 - Improves posture.

·         提高自我尊重 - Boosts self esteem.

·         感觉更年轻 - Makes a person feel younger.

·         肚子,臀部坚实有弹性 - Firms tummy and buttocks.

·         保持夫妻间的感情联络 - Keeps spouses connected emotionally.

·         镇痛 - Offers pain-relief.

·         提供对生活的正面态度 - Gives people a positive attitude on life.

·         减少心脏病的几率 - Reduced risk of heart disease.

·         使人平静 - Makes a person more calm.

·         提高健美程度 - Improves fitness level.

·         易怒程度降低 - Makes a person less irritable.

·         减低抑郁度 - Reduced depression.

·         嗅觉增强 - Improved sense of smell.

·         对免疫系统的治疗作用 - Has a therapeutic effect on immune system.

·         膀胱控制度增加 - Better bladder control.

·         缓解经痛 - Relieves menstrual cramps.

·         帮助睡眠 - Helps people sleep better.

·         提高消化能力 - Improves digestion.

·         健康牙齿 - Healthier teeth.

·         提高记忆力 - Helps folks remember more.

·         在大脑里分泌化学物质一刺激枝状晶体的生长 - Produces chemicals in the brain to stimulate the growth of new dendrites.

·         减低氢化可的松(一种产生疲惫和渴求感的荷尔蒙)程度 - Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings.

·         减少不安全感 - Lowers feelings of insecurity.

·         提高承诺程度 - Increases level of commitment.

·         减少感冒,流感 - Less-frequent colds and flu.

·         减轻体重(每30分钟的性生活可以燃烧约200卡路里) - It can help people achieve weight loss since about 200 calories are burned during 30 minutes of active sex.

·         研究还表明禁欲会使人更具竞争优势,原因不明 - Studies are also showing that it is a myth that abstinence can sharpen a person's competitive edge.

原来神给人性欲,除了众所周知的传宗接代目的之外,还有强健体魄的用意.不过虽然如此,前几天我在广播里又听到说,加拿大的男人对于汽车(CARS)的兴趣竟然大过性生活 – 一个更为令人讶异和震惊的调查结果,男人不都是性动物吗?

不过我以前的确听过一个笑话,说妻子买了一件新的皮衣,展示给丈夫看.丈夫连声称赞.妻子非常开心满意.不料丈夫接着说: 这皮衣闻起来真像一部新卡车里面的味道.

[盈袖2006]

回复纵然平行的评论:
pardon my english. in fact I meant "leave alone"= keep that part. I thought it the best part of your imagination and will be HOT

[纵然平行]

Awww... that's not fair. Guys do the hard work/labor all the time, too. We won't mind or whine.:) However, you are on something which I do see your point, though. I'd agree that men can do cleaning work as well. The thing is that it may not their cup of tea.

I think that the real question is whether or not the work done by a person can possess the connotation of “a labor of love"; if the answer is positive, genders or tasks become irrelevant since such honest effort(s) are totally voluntary, meaning and enjoyable.

I'll take off the bleach part as you suggested when I make my case. In the meantime, I'll keep my fingers crossed and hope she'd buy it. :)

[盈袖2006]

you are certainly a genius, except I would suggest the men do the cleaning because women indeed CAN enjoy the result better without laboring. Leave the cleanning men with bleach part though.

[纵然平行]

Not too long ago, a major news magazine's survey asked its female readers in the city where I live a question “which would you prefer: a romantic meal at your prefered restaurant or making-love to your bf or husband ?“ Guess what, a significant majority of them picked the romantic meal over ml. Gees, that was a shocking revelation. Nevertheless, when the same question posted to males, overwhelmingly, they chose... yes, you might have guessed it. It is a no brainer question :))

So here is my thinking after reading your piece, I think that to improve frequency and satisfaction in mutual way, how about doing the followings:

a. First, the guy takes his gf or wife to her favorite restaurant for a romantic meal, from wine list to desert cart.

b. Then, the guy would encourage his love to clean his car or suv, waxing,vacuuming,detailing and doing whatever she "craves" that day, In turn, the ending results may offer her a sense of accomplishment that gets something done neatly.

c. After that, If she is an ambitious pro cleaner, she may clean her guy from head to toe with soap, windex, lysol, bleach, 97% alcohol or any other industrial strength clean products available on the market, if she is more romantic type, she may bath him or better yet wash each other gently as fp.

d. Next, (listen up, this step is very crucial to us:)), ml in the guy's car (which she's just cleaned inside out with her personal touch) passionately. This would give the guy a special moment to relish and realize his fantasy – a modern version of beauty (his lady) and the beast (the combined entity from him and his muscle car/suv).

How would the above sequences sound ? Please critique before I'd sell this idea to my gf :)