大汉大家
大汉大家的宗旨是为所有在北美的汉人提供一个大家庭的环境，团结大家共同建造一个良好的，平等的社会。这个社会会让我们感到是自己的家，我们可以安居乐业，享受生活，子孙后代不用为融入主流而烦恼。不论祖籍，地区，只要是中华后裔或对中华文化感兴趣的人都是大汉家族。
2010 (21)
2016 (1)
2021 (34)
2023 (39)
2024 (3)
对丁克家庭的意见一般有两派:
1, 赞同和认可,觉得没有孩子也可以有幸福人生,而且没有孩子牵挂,旅游等方面的娱乐活动更加自由.
2, 不赞同,觉得有孩子人生更完整,更幸福.
对于类似的情况,比如同性恋婚姻,也有相同的两派意见.
往往两派试图说服对方,阐述自己的观念正确,对方观念错误.
有一个经典的成语,那就是: 观念是主观的,没有办法区分错和对,只有事实可以证明是错还是对.
对生活方式的各种选择,丁克还是孩子,少要孩子还是多要孩子,同性恋还是异性恋,都可以找到幸福和烦恼. 每个人都根据自己的需要去选择人生,去寻求生活的幸福.
但这个事实是大家公认的: 丁克和同性恋没有后代. 没有后代的基因,没有后代的种族是没有未来的. 这些人可以在今生找到幸福,但未来世界不属于他们的后代. (领养和人工受孕因为费用和难度,数量是非常小的)
抽烟有害健康是不争的事实. 但抽烟是否幸福是个人的主观观念. 抽烟者选择眼前的快感而放弃未来的健康,也是他们对幸福的定义.
生命是复杂的,也是脆弱的. 正常父母生育的孩子中会有一小部分成为同性恋,或成为不孕不育的(包括丁克),因此,希望自己基因顺利延续的父母只有生育出超过自己数量的孩子,才能有效的防范这方面的危险,保障自己基因的稳定延续.
说服吸烟者戒烟非常困难,所以社会注重的是教育年轻人吸烟的危害,防止下一代染上烟瘾.
同样,试图说服丁克和同性恋改变生活也是不现实的. 我们应该注重的是教育年轻一代生命未来的重要性,避免那些本来可以选择正常生活的青年走向断子绝孙的不归之路. 预防比治疗有效得多. 把有限的时间和精力投入在预防,比用力抽打死马要事半功倍得多.
个人人生就70-80年,而中国有记载的历史就有5,000年.人类的未来可以是无限的. 为自己基因看得远的群体才会成为叱咤宇宙的未来.
人生不易.我宁可领养一个孤儿也不愿意制造一个生命. Doesn't matter what race she/he is, I rather help kids who need help. There are already too many children in this world, we don't need make more, just to help those kids who still live in poor, then our life can be meaningful as well.
今天美国是最强大的国家,因为她在发达国家中人口最多.卢森堡人均比美国人均富裕多了,但谁愿意去卢森堡发展?
人多不一定发达,但人少绝对不会有力量.要发达就要努力把大量的人口一起发展起来,而不是把人口降下去来达到发达.看看历史就知道,古今中外没有一个民族是在人口下降时候发达起来的.人口下降伴随的只会是衰亡!
Life is fragile and that's why we need more children to hedge risk. Life is like lion and gazelle in African Savanna. I grief the loss of loved ones, but the love for my children can overcome any hit in life. You need to be competitive to survive, and you need to have faith in your children that they can be more competitive than you. You need to have faith that each generation is stronger.
Again, how many children to have is your personal choice. More children will expand your genes is a fact. Expanding genes is good or bad is personal opinion, no right or wrong .
You are the lucky one I guess. In chinese standard, I was born with a sliver spoon in my mouth. Plus I had a very successful career in China. But fed up with pressure of getting married, I escaped to US and gave up everything I had. After years of hard work I made it and live happily ever after. Having a wealthy husband treats me like queen never upset me. I am living in dream most women desire.
However, I have wisdom to see better than others and being brutally honest.
Here is a human full life story. After you were born, you are arranged to study your ass off. Facing stiff competition. Finally you made to college. After college you searched for an ideal job. Bust you ass to build a career and make money. Afterwards you struggled to find a soul mate. 90% people are unable to achieve. You might end up a bad marriage, a cheating partner, financial crisis, health problem, job loss etc. Then your parents got sick you need to take care of them. You saw them suffer and pass away and there was nothing you could do. You did not choose to be born and yet you can not choose the way to die. I see death at very close range, it is a very painful journey. Unless you are lucky have a sudden death. It will take a decade to get over the grief if you have a heart. And then you are old and facing death yourself. Aging is not for sises, It is very tough.
I am describing a full life for those made it. there are so many others never have a chance to go to college, never see the world, never get married or never have a right spouse. Never have enough money to do things they want to do. Or born less fortunate have birth defect, less intelligent. Let me know if you want bring that on to someone else.
让子孙后代不用为融入主流而烦恼，包括选择丁克的自由。
人类和动物的最大不同是人类懂得了避孕。
You need to find your rightful place in society. I felt life was miserable and unbearable when I was growing up in China. After I came to the U.S., life was full of hope. I found my home here. I have a very successful career, a very good family and I absolutely love my life.
Keep your hope up. If you work hard, life will be good.
On the other hand, if you don't like to work hard, then life is miserable and you might not to want to pass your genes down. In Africa Savanna, every day when the gazelle wakes up, he must worry about outrunning the fastest lion in order to survive another day. The lion too, must worry about outrunning the slowest gazelle in order to catch food to survive another day. Some of them feel tired and don't want to run hard, they die. This is called the survival of the fittest. Same for our human society. If people think life is too hard, then their gene might not be fit to pass down.