爱与被爱
人生危机时刻的感悟。
博文
(2009-09-13 21:58:48)
Bementallyactiveandspeakquickly.Themindisidlemuchofthetime,asaresult,itseemsdumb.Peoplecanfeelthisandthisprojectabadimageofself.Andtheywilltrytoavoidyou.Thinkquicklyandspeakquickly.Exchangemindwithpeers.Ifnochange,otherpeoplewillbesmarterthanyou.Dont'sitidle,respond.Lifeistooshorttowaste.Andotherpeoplearenotthatdumbasyousubconsciouslythink.Bemorementallyactive![阅读全文]
(2009-09-13 21:52:15)
Peoplerespondtocertaincircumstancesinverypredictablemanners.Aftermanyyearsofconditioning,theneuralcircuitryhasformed.Oncetheinitialconditionispresent,thewayofthoughtorresponsepatternismostlythesame.Whentalkingwithpeople,italreadybecomesnaturaltoselftobeinaverydefensiveandpassiveway.Becometense,guarduphigh,andreadytodefendinapassiveway.Thisresponseisaresultoflong-termselfbehaviorandshouldbeeradicat...[阅读全文]
(2009-07-20 21:17:32)
Theissueofnotbeingpeople-smartpopedupagainwhencallingmomyesterdayevening.Howtobepeople-smart?Firstoff,itisimportanttobepeoplesmart.Theoutsideworldcanbedividedintotwocategories,onebeingtheobjectiveworld,theotheristheworldofpeople.Beingtrainedascientist,Iamverygoodattheobjectiveworldnow.Sonowisthetimetotacklethepeopleworld.Howtobepeoplesmart?1-Standonyourownfeet.Confidencethatyouareasgoodaseveryonee...[阅读全文]
(2009-07-13 21:56:49)
把注意力从自己的身上转移到真正的目标上，一切问题反而都解决了。内心中再深刻，心念电转，对方注意到的只是正在交流的外在目标。一旦发现自己又在内注，一定要收回到外在的事情上来。09年生日唯一之感。谨记。[阅读全文]
(2009-07-13 21:50:41)
昨夜惊梦，坏人作恶，我声言力喝：有种断我手臂。坏人拿刀竟然砍下，我已有预料，抽手躲避。接着猛然惊醒。这个世上，其实坏人比好人多得多。其实很多情况下人都有好的一面，也有坏的一面。如果你软弱，他人坏的一面就会占上风。所以一定不要怕，直面一切危险和邪恶。人生一世，最根本的就是要站稳自己的脚跟，保护自己的人和信念。这些都是不能坚决放弃的。[阅读全文]
(2009-04-19 19:05:26)
Therearemillionsofpotentialpartnerstochoosefrom.Whodoyouchoose?Tosomedegree,thisisliketofindajob.Youhavetofindajobthatexcitesyou,notjusttoearnaliving(otherwiseitwouldgetboringandsoonorlateryouwillchangetoanotherone).Ontheotherhand,thereisanINTERviewprocess,whichmeansthejobmustacceptyou.It'stwo-wayprocess.Agoodmatchmeansthatyoucanfullyusewhatyouhaveaneenhanceyourself,whiletheemployerisgladtohaveyou...[阅读全文]
(2009-03-14 23:05:21)
Inaneraofcollectivethinking,itiseasytousemassthinkingasone'sown.Thinkthingsaswhattheyreallyare.Inscience,thisisapplicablebecausedon'texpectwhatothersaretryingtosellyouarecorrect.[阅读全文]
(2009-03-14 23:01:57)
AfterreadingLincoln'smidlifecrisis,itdownsonselfthatownmidlifecrisisseemscomingearlierthanmostmen,whichisafterpassing40.Themarriagecrisisunwillinglythrowinnerworldoutofbalanceandintotalturbulance,promptingselfthinkmanyaspectsoflife.Thereareconfusion,rageoverothers,remorsetoself,deepstruggle.Itletsselfrealizethelong-rootedfearaboutmanythingsinownlife.Andselfwilldiesomeday.Onrelationships.Onnextgene...[阅读全文]
(2008-11-01 23:28:49)
Nowwiththefloodingofbooks,it'seasytofallslavestobooks.Youfeelyouhavetoreadthem.Readingbooksmanytimesiscompulsory.Sometimestruthissosimpleyoudon'tbooks.Focusonthemostworthythingsandletgoodbookguideyouifneededonly.Whatisbooks?Themostimportantnowistocarryinformationorjustfacts.Basicallytheyaretheaccumulationofhumanknowledge.Beforereading,youneedtoknowwhatyouarelookingfor.
Ifyouneedtoread,findthebest...[阅读全文]
(2008-09-01 20:48:08)
Whensomethingfails,don'tfeelsorryforself.InChineseitmightbecalledZi-Ze.Ifthefailureisduetoselfmistake,rememberthemistake,moveonandmakesureitwon'thappenagain.Ifitisduetoothersorbeyondowncapability,don'tevenfeelatinybitofsorryforself.//Ifyouthinkofsomethingthatyouwerenotgoodatsometimeago,nowwhenyoureflectonit-don'tfeelsorryforself.Justthinkwhatyouwilldonow.[阅读全文]
