爱与被爱
人生危机时刻的感悟。
博文
(2010-03-17 20:52:05)
Perhapsthebiggestlessonofthedivorceisthefailuretomakementalconnectionwithpeople.Ifyoucannotevenconnectwiththemostimportantpeopleinyourlife,theywillsufferandpossiblyleave.Iusedtobeaverycoldperson.ThinkaboutthetimewhenCuiCHunjiemetyouontheroadwhenyoureturnedfromYiZhongandhereturnedforfromErZhong.Hewassoshockedtofindmesoindifferentthathesentaletterlatertoexpresshisfrustration.Thinkaboutthetimewhenyou...[阅读全文]
(2010-02-25 22:01:51)
Ifheorsheknowsifyouarebetrayedyouwouldturnaroundandneverlookback,theywillnotmessupwithyou.Ontheotherhand,iftheyknowthatyouwillstayevenaftergettinghurt,theyaregoingtohurtyou.[阅读全文]
(2010-02-25 21:58:55)
Apoisonoussnakeissocold.Shebegsayoungmantoputherintohispockettowarmherup.Theyoungmansays:"youareapoisonoussnake,youwillbitemeafteryougetwarm."Thesnakereplies:"Iwon'tbiteyou,pleaseputmeintoyourpocket."Theyoungmanstillrefuses,butthesnakebegsandbegs.Finallyheputthesnakeintohispocket.Aftershewarmsup,hegetsbitten.Theyoungmanaskedthesnakeinpain:yousaidyouwouldnotbiteme,whydoyoudoit?Thesnakesays:youknowI...[阅读全文]
(2010-02-05 22:48:51)
如果意识到大多数人都是好人，反而会好得多。起码不会独立自己。另外反而容易看清别人的小心思。也容易和人相处了。[阅读全文]
(2010-02-01 21:54:55)
今天终于离婚了。如果有一个教训需要记住的，就是一定要看清人再结婚。很多人是不适合、或者不值得的。人生下一步是很重要的，不过千万不要再象以前那样着急，而匆促从事。多花些功夫不怕，关键是一定有把握了再说。第一次婚姻从开始就注定了要失败。首先是忽视了一个女人的人品。女人的暧昧关系太多是不行的，不应该接受的。其次是结婚之前的那个暑假就已经[阅读全文]
(2010-01-17 21:49:55)
Ifonelosesdignityandindependence,he/shewillbedespisedandlifetragedywillhappen.Don'tcompromisew/oprinciple.Evenifyouwillbehurtorriskyourlifetrack.//Ifyoustandonyourown,thinkw/ownbrain,youonthecontrarywillberespected,peopledon'tdaretodobadthingsagainstyou,andnightmarishlifewillbefarfromyou.[阅读全文]
(2009-12-27 22:28:07)
Along-formedhabitistobetoohumbletopartnerandotherpeople.Beequaltopartnerandothers.Tryingtopleasepartnerandothersisaindicationoflackofself-confidence.Itdoesnotworkifyouwanttomakepeacewithothers.Itdoesnotsolveanyproblem.Instead,theonlyeffectithasistodown-valueselfandletpartnerandotherslookdownonyou.//Feeltheequalityandbeconfident.[阅读全文]
(2009-12-18 22:04:32)
Learntolaugh.Shedfear,stress,andotherreservationoff.Atthebeginningitmightbenottotallynatural.Butkeeplaughingwillchangeattitudeinturnandcauseagoodcycle.[阅读全文]
(2009-12-13 21:32:04)
Wehavemanythingstofearinourlives.Althoughtheygreatlyaffectourlifequality,weusuallylivewiththemandtoleratethemwithoutencounteringcrisisinourlives.Itiswhenwefacecrisisthatwefinallyhavethecouragetoconfrontthesefearsface-to-faceanderadicatethem.Weshouldlivewithoutfear.Apersonfearingnothingisatruehumanbeinganddemandrespectfromothers.//Whatareweafraidof?Abigandbasicfearisthelossoflivelihood.Werealizenob...[阅读全文]
(2009-12-02 22:42:35)
Ifamanwoosawomanjustbecauseofsocialpressuretogettingmarriedandformingafamily,thelifewon'tbeveryenjoyable.Notworthit.Itmustbefuntogether.Thereissomethingtoattracteachother,notjustononeside.Ifamanlikesawoman,don'tbetootightanddeadserious.Thereisnofunandthewomanmayleave.Sayordosomethingfunnyorinteresting.Showyourpassionandsmartness.Bedependable.//
Thefinalone,dependability,isthecrucialone.Ifagirlf...[阅读全文]
