对于高中学生来説，如果不牵涉到法律，放手并相信他们能够处理好在学校碰到的棘手事情是值得的。女儿是一个Club 的队长，有一年在招收新队员时Rejected 了一个女孩，那个女孩很想进入这个Club，觉得Rejected 她是不公平的。这个女孩不仅自己向Club的队长们申诉，而且她妈妈还反应到校长那里去了。当时事情整的挺大的。事后，女儿才把事情的来龙去脉给我们讲过，之前我们根本不知道。后来，女儿把这次事件的与她直接有关的主要内容写成了她Common Apps 的那个Major Essay。下文仅供参考。

As a co-captain of the XX team, my communication skills have earned a fair share of horrifying and rewarding experiences these past two years. However, none came close to the chaos caused in junior year by a slip of the tongue, and more than ever, I have appreciated the power of words.

It was my second time heading tryouts, a two-step process involving tests and an interview. Selecting those to interview was simple - numbers spoke for themselves. -------- During interviews, the other two captains and I considered how applicants reacted to pressure and worked with others, but we also acknowledged the personal attributes a person can bring to the team. ------------That afternoon, interviews proceeded smoothly, and soon we made our decisions.

The cold air bit my face in warning as I left K Hall. In the distance, I saw a girl talking to XX, a fellow co-captain; --------------------At that moment, I realized the situation was too much for XX to handle alone so I added in my two cents. ------------------------- The wordpersonality echoed ominously in my head and I watched in horror as

the tenth grader's face tensed in disbelief.------------------. The bell rang, and her eyes showed disappointment and anger as she flatly said we didn't need to explain anything anymore. She left and I felt an uncomfortable heaviness in my heart.

For days, her words plagued my thoughts, and I pondered over ways to apologize. My interpretation of personality meant how a person fit into a community; it was not a personal attack. ------------------------------- What if I had been her? How would I have acted? Stepping back, I realized she just needed someone to listen to her frustrations.

When weekend came, I sat down and typed up a long email. ---------- Three hours passed, and she replied. My words had opened her up and she had cooled down. On September xxth, I gained a new friend.

I never did tell the other captains what I did that day. --------------------------- Captaining a team of thirty members has consistently tested my strength of character, but this girl taught me to accept my mistakes and move on in the best possible way.