也许是因为我的女儿今年上了大学,她自己读书做事都是自己做主,因此,最近有朋友就和一起我探讨怎么样让孩子尽快独立的事情。很多朋友拿自己的孩子和别人家的孩子相比,就感觉自己的孩子怎么那么不成熟,那么贪玩,那么不懂事儿,什么时候才能成熟、自立、独立起来呢?很多人都有一肚子的苦水也有很多人特别的捉急。
实话实说,我还真的不知道怎么让孩子尽快的独立,我觉得那是和孩子自己性格、家庭教育和环境的影响有很多关联的,让我说怎么样才能让孩子独立,我说不出来,但是,我能知道怎么样能让孩子“不独立”。
以下是我个人认为让孩子不独立的浅见:
1)孩子三岁了,父母还陪着睡觉,这样的孩子到了二十岁也独立不了,尤其是那些父母陪着睡觉到七岁、十岁、甚至十二岁的孩子,估计终生都不容易独立了。
![孩子独立生活习惯的关键期父母一定要掌握- 上游新闻·汇聚向上的力量](https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSITjghI-0LJsB223P2mEoFsEYfE8_hTwyMfQ&usqp=CAU)
2)孩子到了七、八岁,父母还给孩子收拾屋子,换尿布,把孩子给宠的像一只金翅雀,出门都拉着手,给孩子系扣子,拉拉锁,系鞋带,戴帽子什么的,这样的孩子也很难成熟自立。
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3)家长认为自己的孩子就是最娇贵的,从来也不让孩子参加体育运动和比赛,从来也不让孩子 Sleep Over, 16岁了也不让孩子开车,天天把孩子宠在自己的周围,上中学了还给孩子洗衣服叠被。
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4)父母天天监督孩子的学习,给孩子选课,给孩子找辅导老师,什么事情都是父母做主,父母包办,孩子没有什么自主权和自己的想法。上大学选专业也都是父母的选择:去学医,去学CS,去学麻醉,去学吧啦吧啦吧啦。孩子没有自己的主意或者有自己的主意也没有用,这样的孩子,很难独立。
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5)孩子上大学了,父母在孩子上大学的城市买一个房子。天天给孩子送饭,陪孩子上学,给孩子当陪读,这样的孩子,三十五岁之前是独立不了的。
6)孩子交朋友,男朋友女朋友都很难让父母满意,父母心里在盘算着自己喜欢的人而不考虑孩子喜欢的人,父母用父母的老思想来衡量、控制着自己的孩子。把孩子当成自己的私有财产,养儿防老养女防老。这样的孩子,没法独立!
我觉得,给孩子空间,leave them alone, 是让孩子们尽快独立最好的方法。
根据我自己的经验:我父母从小就在离我十万八千里的地方工作,每两年才能见一次面,从小我基本上就独立。后来父母回北京工作,我13岁进入国家队一年也就见一两次面,什么事情都是我自己做主,后来谈恋爱搞对象结婚办喜事分住房升职出国一直到现在也都是自己拿主意,所以,我独立!
所以,you think about it.
《版权孩子所有,翻印独立不究》
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