from: http://www.lightshouse.org/things-toxic-parents-do.html#axzz2YEZx19FG Abandoning Addictive Behaviors (most common in toxic parents with BPD or NPD traits) Betraying Blackmailing Blaming Breaking Trust Bribery Competing (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits) Controlling Criticizing (most common in toxic parents with NPD or BPD traits) Cruelty (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits) Demanding (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits) Denying Devaluing Dictating (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits) Disappointing Disapproval (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits) Disowning Dysfunction Egotism (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits) Emotional abuse Engulfing (most common in toxic parents with NPD or BPD traits) Envying (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits) Favoritism Forcing Gaslighting (Denying something happened.) Guilt Trips Holds grudges Hoovering Humiliating Ignoring Infantilizing (most common in toxic parents with NPD or OCPD traits) Insults Invalidating Labeling Lying Manipulating Martyrdom (most common in toxic parents with HPD or NPD traits) Minimizing (most common in toxic parents with AsPD or NPD traits) Name-calling Narcissism Needling Negativity Neglecting Nerve-wracking Not empathizing Objectifying Oppression Overreacting Parentifying Passive-Aggression Physical Abuse (most common in toxic parents with AsPD or BPD traits) Playing children off one another Playing Victim Polarizing Power Trips Prejudices (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits) Pressuring Pretending Projection Put-downs Rage Refusing Responsibility Religious Abuse (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits) Retaliating Rigidity Role playing Sarcasm Scapegoating Scaring Secrets Severe punishment Sexual Abuse Smear Campaigns Sneakiness (most common in toxic parents with AsPD traits) Substance abuse Temper Tantrums Threatening Threatening suicide (most common in toxic parents with BPD traits) Triangulation Toxic Shaming Tricking (most common in toxic parents with AsPD traits) Ultimatums Undermining Using (most common in toxic parents with AsPD traits) Verbally Abusing Vindictiveness Wheedling (most common in toxic parents with BPD or NPD traits) Withholding Yelling More Here: http://www.lightshouse.org/things-toxic-parents-do.html#ixzz41jLy5UgL |