子欲舞而亲不在 ------ 一首催人泪下的蓝调( R& B ) To Dance With My Father Again 因了写嘻哈音乐题材的文章,连日来嘻哈,蓝调音乐不绝于耳。本来咱们听西洋歌曲就是重曲调轻歌词,何况这些嘻哈歌手都刻意用口齿不清的哈莱姆英语念白说唱,听得我云山雾罩。暗自寻思多半离不开性爱,暴力,毒品和叛逆的内容,此时不懂胜听懂。 突然,一个情真意挚的中年男声如泣如诉,初成曲调即有情。一个中年男人,表达了他对已经逝世的父亲那份思念,歉疚和爱,与中国传统的“树欲静而风不止,子欲养而亲不在”的孝道异曲同工。演唱者 Luther Vandross 是蓝调的殿堂级人物,唱了许多脍炙人口的歌曲,平生获奖无数。他还因此歌而获得 2004 年的格莱美奖。 To Dance With My Father Again By: Luther Vandross Back when I was a child before life removed all the innocence my father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then spin me around till I fell asleep
then up the stairs he would carry me and I knew for sure, I was loved If I could get another chance another walk another dance with him I'd play a song that would never ever end how I'd love love love to dance with my father again
第一段回忆了孩提时代父亲让孩子骑在脖子上,和妈妈一起跳舞,直至孩子酣然入梦,才把他抱上楼去。既表达了父亲那份舔犊深情,也让我们感到家庭的温馨,父亲和母亲那份相濡以沫的爱情。我的思绪也随着歌声,回到了童年:父亲骑着自行车,驮着我上街,给我买最爱吃的甘草杨桃,鸟梨(一种小沙皮梨) ……. oooo when I and my mother would disagee to get my way I would run from her to him he'd make me laugh just to comfort me yeah yeah then finally make me do just what my momma said later that night when I was asleep he left a dollar under my sheet never dreamed that he would be gone from me If I could steal one final glance, one final step one final dance with him I'd play a song that would never ever end cause I'd love, love, love, to dance with my father again
这一段回忆了一个慈父如何巧妙地教育孩子听妈妈的话。没有喝斥,也不用说教,让孩子心服口服。许多中国家庭的父母,对孩子给予了太多的期许,所以当孩子不听话或者成绩稍不如人意时,恨铁不成钢的复杂心情跃然脸上,总爱把自己的喜好和是非判断强加于孩子身上,反而激起了孩子的逆反情绪,造成剑拔弩张的紧张局面。我们能否从这段歌声里得到某种启发呢? sometimes I'd listen outside her door and I hear how my mother cried for him I'd pray for her even more than me I'd pray for her even more than me I know I'm praying for much to much but could you send back the only man she loved I know you don't do it usually but dear lord she's dying to dance with my father again every night I fall asleep and this is all I ever dream 最后这一段最是催人泪下,令人心碎!从儿子的口中诉说了母亲对逝去丈夫的无限哀思和眷恋,并向上苍祈求,让父亲复活回到爱着他的妻儿身边。这里不仅表达了对父亲的思念,更委婉地表达了对孤寂的妈妈的心疼,愧疚和孝心。都说男儿有泪不轻弹,听到这里,我还是把手伸向纸巾盒 …… 因为它让我想起银丝满头的妈妈,多年来为照顾因中风而行动不便的父亲,任劳任怨全天候护理陪伴着他。每年回去看到她日渐憔悴,身体大不如前,心中也有如歌中的那份愧疚和心疼。妈妈,儿子不孝,身在万水千山之外,无法与你分担辛劳。还望你自己多多保重! 谨将这首歌曲献给与我同龄的海外游子和我们亲爱的父亲母亲们,向他们感恩! |