孤舟蓑笠翁502008-01-28 21:54:57回复悄悄话
真妮, I was wondering – what would happen if that Peter was serious about the relationship with 吴荷? Would she still say“你和孩子永远都是我心中最重要的。”?
reader2008-01-28 08:46:07回复悄悄话
This was what we called "Genuine" "Artificial" Insemination!!
A woman went to a sperm bank for artificial insemination. She was lying naked on the operation table and waiting for the doctor to come in.
The door wide openned and a naked man walked in. He told the startled woman: "Sorry, lady, we ran out of sperm today!"
bule2008-01-26 21:54:52回复悄悄话
so impressed by your rich informtion as expressed in some of your blogs commenting on extramarital affairs. The man in the current story appeared to have been blessed socially, but not biologically.
嗯，这个事情编得很好。希望中国男子里面有这种人物。心胸宽大厚道。能容忍老婆出墙到这个程度的男人，实在不多。 那个女的形象，不太丰满。似乎着墨多些就能丰满点。 谢谢
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有点搞笑，中国不太缺少这种没有血性的男人？
everyman's life there should be conmitted wife,
which forms rite after the right
alsoRun2008-01-26 19:54:52回复悄悄话
回复蔡真妮的评论:
Did the wife ever confess and ask for forgiveness? If she did not do that, she was then disingenuous to cliam "“你和孩子永远都是我心中最重要的”.
I also heard from Dr. Joy Brown's show that even in the West the concept of not "mixing up bloodline" had a long tradition.
alsoRun2008-01-26 18:57:22回复悄悄话
This is a crazy story and I hope it is not even remotely based on a real incident because no man should subject himself to such humiliation.When I first arrived in U.S., ABC news Primetime show reported on a cheating wife bearing her best friend's children. The title of that episode is called "ultimate betrayal". So it is not just me who think this way.
Besides, it is usually not hard to tell if a child is mixed race.
cncjcc2008-01-26 09:54:44回复悄悄话
回复冬心的评论:
同意您的看法。Morality put aside, put ourselves in our husbands' shoes, how could we hurt them this way? I believe the husband in this story is extrodinary, but if I could not excuse my husband for having an affair, then I could not excuse myself either.
冬心2008-01-26 06:29:56回复悄悄话
咱们同胞的道德水准高到这种程度，实在是匪夷所想。
连这对偷情的男女都觉得内疚。还有人说"No. I don't think 这位妻子亏欠丈夫. The 丈夫does not have the capability of reproduction in the first place.He is truly a lucky guy. Now, he has a lovely son, a loving wife & a cozy family."
lumao2008-01-25 18:11:52回复悄悄话
if the husband missed capability of reproduction, the lady could find a solution this way, how about the husband who lost sexual capability?
Does the lady will find a solution outside marriage as well?
I dont believe this will work out
lumao2008-01-25 18:07:22回复悄悄话
This is not a plotted pregnant from the couple or from the lady. if thats the case, its different.
so the wift cheated on her husband and she will cheat him again, believe or not!!!
PlsHelpEB3Interview2008-01-25 16:28:28回复悄悄话
回复CNCJCC的评论:
No. I don't think 这位妻子亏欠丈夫. The 丈夫does not have the capability of reproduction in the first place. He is truly a lucky guy. Now, he has a lovely son, a loving wife & a cozy family.
孤舟蓑笠翁502008-01-24 11:24:33回复悄悄话
Very touching story! Beautiful ending to a not so perfect couple! She must be a very good person otherwise to deserve the forgiveness from her husband – when you have a long marriage together, everything is viewed from the whole picture (or some people say the emotional bank account)! I hope she will never repeat that kind of mistake again!
要是混血, 特别是白男黄女, 孩子就不会只是一般白, 外表根本就是白人了.
作者的文章写得真好！看了很多篇了，忍不住留下几个字。
1） 到精子库借种。
2） 雇佣陌生人借种。
3） 向熟人借种。
4） 一夜情意外借种。
每一种选择都有它的利弊。对太太来说第四种选择是最为自然的，而做先生的可能会选第一种。虽然最后一种做起来有点难度，但既然发生了，对我来说这样的结果可能是最好的，因为这样对她的伤害应该最小，而且也使这样的一夜情给太太带来一段美好的回忆。
我并没觉得文中的男人很难得，因为他根本就没有太多的选择，无意中其实他得到的是最好的选择。如果是我，我会让大家都知道这是我最想要的结果，原不好意思提，却真的就这样发生了。
做先生的要知道，在这个问题上先生的态度对太太的影响会很大，做好了回报也可能是很大的。
我敬佩这个故事里的老公，尽管许多知情人对他不以为然。
你真是个说故事高手！
A woman went to a sperm bank for artificial insemination. She was lying naked on the operation table and waiting for the doctor to come in.
The door wide openned and a naked man walked in. He told the startled woman: "Sorry, lady, we ran out of sperm today!"
有可能哦。
I wonder if she deliberately seduced Peter to get the promotion and pregnance.
这个男人很精明，很能忍，非常有从政经商的潜力，值得欣赏。
嗯，这个事情编得很好。希望中国男子里面有这种人物。心胸宽大厚道。能容忍老婆出墙到这个程度的男人，实在不多。 那个女的形象，不太丰满。似乎着墨多些就能丰满点。 谢谢
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有点搞笑，中国不太缺少这种没有血性的男人？
everyman's life there should be conmitted wife,
which forms rite after the right
Did the wife ever confess and ask for forgiveness? If she did not do that, she was then disingenuous to cliam "“你和孩子永远都是我心中最重要的”.
I also heard from Dr. Joy Brown's show that even in the West the concept of not "mixing up bloodline" had a long tradition.
这样的人，这样的事，一直都有的。
另外关于中西混血小孩的长相，我见到过五、六个完全像中国人的，也见过一个完全像老外的，回国别人都认为他妈是保姆。
Why would a man of any self worth think this way?
Besides, it is usually not hard to tell if a child is mixed race.
我写的故事都有原型，为了不伤害当事人，我尽可能地将之改头换面。实际生活中的这个男人做的比我写的还好，我将另一个不孕的故事放到他身上，给他找了一个原谅妻子的理由。大度的人是有的，好男人、好女人也是处处存在的，就像所谓的坏男人、坏女人处处存在一样。
至于老秃笔认为女主不够丰满，实话说，我了解男主的想法和思路，却没摸清她的想法。不想把她写的很坏，又不苟同她的做法，所以就含糊地带过去了。
最可怕的不是犯错，而是犯错了还没有半点后悔之心，更有甚者是为错误找出美丽的理由。
可以宽容别人犯错误，却不能原谅没有悔改之心的人。
同意您的看法。Morality put aside, put ourselves in our husbands' shoes, how could we hurt them this way? I believe the husband in this story is extrodinary, but if I could not excuse my husband for having an affair, then I could not excuse myself either.
连这对偷情的男女都觉得内疚。还有人说"No. I don't think 这位妻子亏欠丈夫. The 丈夫does not have the capability of reproduction in the first place.He is truly a lucky guy. Now, he has a lovely son, a loving wife & a cozy family."
2。洁身自好，自尊自爱的男人，会觉得很脏。
3。天道循环，报应不爽。永远不要觉得自己漂亮，或者出身高贵，或者能赚钱就可以伤害，侮辱别人。
4。可怜之人，必有可恨之处。可恨之人，必有可怜之时。
Does the lady will find a solution outside marriage as well?
I dont believe this will work out
so the wift cheated on her husband and she will cheat him again, believe or not!!!
No. I don't think 这位妻子亏欠丈夫. The 丈夫does not have the capability of reproduction in the first place. He is truly a lucky guy. Now, he has a lovely son, a loving wife & a cozy family.
孩子除了比别人白点，五官上看不出来异样。我看到的混血小孩有的完全象外国人，有的完全象中国人，还有的位于中间状态。这个小孩就完全像中国人。所以他长大以后应该不会有认同问题，他父母大概也不会告诉他真相。
回复孤舟蓑笠翁50及匹夫同志：女主确是个在各方面都非常优秀的女人。
孩子长大了怎么办？估计美国的人文环境还是不错的。还有如何面对双方的家长？传统的中国老一辈难接受。
天下还有更好的男人女人.
没有不平衡，他俩感情一直很好。