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也来倒一下苦水,大家帮助吧

(2009-09-29 20:06:04) 下一个
俺家老三,男孩。挺聪明的,按中文学校老师的话是“过目不忘”。考试成绩都挺好,可是日常生活中,丢三落四、注意力不集中。做个作业吧,三请四催才开始,半个小时的作业,一边做一边玩,2个小时都做不完。俺觉得他有 mild autism or behavior disorder.要纠正,就得从小抓起。现在有俺天天念叨(nag),养成自觉的习惯,也许就好了。

可是俺家LD一不同意俺的诊断,二不同意俺的疗法。他坚信小三能学会自我控制,come through。他的建议是随他去,比如作业,他不记得做,就让老师批评他,后果自负。这样他自然就学乖了。也就是说让他从栽跟头中学会生存。

俺的反驳是,这里的学校不像国内,不交作业什么惩罚也没有,儿子哪能学乖呢?等到习惯成自然,以后要改也来不及了。

目前俺跟LD打成平局,谁也说服不了谁。
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taian12 回复 悄悄话 我儿小时也如您儿,那时我也有同样的烦恼。我的经验是大人稍加督促,树大自直。一来大人有自己的事,精力有限,二来管多了他烦。大人要强调规则,具体事上给他自由度。我儿现在还算出色。
laoyangdelp 回复 悄悄话 回复elly的评论:
Thanks for your suggestion. Actually I've realized that he is doing just fine without my nagging, #1 in his class for academics. Also his older brother is a very self disciplined boy who has a lot of positive influence on him.
elly 回复 悄悄话 i actually support your LG.but it's really hard to make such a decision. my suggestion is that give your son some time, maybe half year, and just let him learn the lesson.
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