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Family Tie

(2006-08-15 16:38:20) 下一个

In animal kingdom most parents would push their offspring out to be independent, some of them even chase off them to live out of their territories.  For Human things aren't so simple.  The profound love, care, bonding and occasional sacrifice between parents and children may be very complicated than that other species could ever imagine. 

I could be wrong. Sometimes I can feel over the phone my parents want to take care of me more than that be cared by. In their mind I am a boy who  has  scab on his elbows or play video games without knowing day and night or does the  laundry without sorting first …    In other words, no matter how tall I’ve grown  or how independent  I will be. I am still their child,  and case closed.  

In general, most our parents may feel some relief when we’d , the children, finally grow up and step out " nest/den" to live our own life, nevertheless, thickness of emotions and feelings resulted from raising us would never relinquish so easily. By some token, our parents would expect us to be loyal, considerate and be there for them when they'd have the needs.  

To us the big challenges is to maintain strong family tie while staying independent as an individual to purse our own happiness.  I think that one thing we can do is to keep all the communications channels (phone call, email, photos, gift …..) open and convey our love and care back to them all the time. No one can say this is easy thing to do but we ought to try our best to get it done and done well.  Besides, someday, some where, we’d meet someone, fall in love with,  get married and life would go on a new cycle. 

Guess what, the table will be turned.

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纵然平行 回复 悄悄话 I'd agree with your thougts. In my opinion that our family and its strong ties within are those corner stones to build up our characters. It is the safety net we can really fall off. Put this way, If many of us know tomorrow would be the day for this world to come to the end , I'd bet, we'd like to fly back to China and spend the last minute with our parents.

Hope this would never happen, I want to live -:)
豆沙小月饼 回复 悄悄话 I think family is a place which can help us find direction and love. And the secret of a happy family life is that the members of the family learn to give and receive love.

Here is a good quote I would like to share with friends:

No other stucture can replace the family. Without it, our children have no moral foundation. Without it, they become moral illiterates whose only law is self.

-------Chuck Colson

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