Stay away from person like that

Have seen many comments online about how difficult to relate to Indian colleagues. I thought it’s a little prestigious until recently. I used to work with this guy in my previous company and he recently applied a job at my current company. I had not known him so well, except he seemed nice and technically strong. I interviewed him and recommended him. He joined us two weeks ago.

He wanted to carpool with me to work. Considering almost 30 miles each way and I didn’t think it’s a bad idea. So he drove for two days of a week when I didn’t have after work activity. It seems ok.

Next week, I drove three days. He came to my office and asked when to leave, I would say let’s go now. Then I dressed and was ready to go and went to his desk he was not packed yet. Then he would go to toilet and asked me waiting outside for him. I was thinking this didn’t worth the trouble at all and plan to not carpool again when this week ended. On Friday, he came to me and we agreed to leave in 10 mins. Like before I dressed and found he was talking with our boss. I waived at him, I waited a few munites, he was still talking with the boss. So it went for 30 minutes with me wearing a heavy coat and standing there visible from his angle. Finally he ended the conversation with boss. Of course, packed, put on coat and told me he needed to use the toilet again… ...

I told him, we would not carpool from now on. He said, “why? I thought we were doing so well”. I said: you think so? Then he started to apologize and said he did not want to say no to our boss. I said, I am sure he will be fine to continue the conversation tomorrow. it’s not urgent work related.

So this week I drive by myself. He stopped at my cube yesterday asked if he could pick me up and carpool. I said no. He said, well I know you are busy this week and how about we start carpool next week. I didn’t answer. At lunch he walked to me and ask me to go to lunch, I said I already had arrangement. Maybe next day.

I feel bad to reject to him, so today I asked him to go for lunch. He said he would meet me at café because his wife packed him lunch and he need to warm it. I bought my lunch downstairs and finished it without seeing him. Pretty much pissed off, I was on my way back to office, there he came. He told me he was waiting for our boss to join him. I said to him, “you are not very nice to me but definitely very nice to our boss. But you don’t have to let me eating alone just for waiting boss 20 mins THAT sort of nice”.

How could not I kiss a** like that? I just have too much pride and am too nice to ignore my colleague.

For sure, I am done with this guy.