You Can't Spell TIME Without 'I' and 'Me'!
By Joel
Stein
When I first got
to TIME Magazine in 1997, a small number of people did not enjoy my particular
style of writing. Unfortunately, most of these people worked in my office. Or
subscribed to TIME. So, really, a small number compared with the population of
earth but a pretty big number compared with the amount of people who read my
articles.
Not only did a
website chart the number of times I used me, I and my each week, but a reporter
in TIME's
Los Angeles
bureau tacked one of my articles to her door, riddled with circles and angry
scribblings about the death of the magazine. A 2000 New York Times profile about
me said my columns "focus on three topics: himself, his life and his deep,
private, personal thoughts." In one of the greatest moments of my life, I was
flown first class from
New York
to L.A. by a television studio to work on a sitcom pilot about my life, and a
former SPORTS ILLUSTRATED model who was also on the flight asked to switch seats
so she could sit by me. The man who agreed to switch was Gore Vidal, and when I
told him I knew a friend of his who worked for TIME, he ranted about how the
editor had ruined the magazine by hiring egocentric young people who write only
about themselves. I nodded vigorously and thought, Gore Vidal is talking about
me!
Thirteen years
later and 13 years wiser, I reflect on that criticism and think, I won! All
bloggers write in first person, spending hours each day chronicling their anger
at their kids for taking away their free time. Every Facebook update and tweet
is sophomoric, solipsistic, snarky and other words I've learned by Googling
myself.
Psychology
professor Jean Twenge, whose book The Narcissism Epidemic I love largely because
it mentions me, says we are living in the Age of Individualism, a radical
philosophical shift that began with Freud. This phenomenon hit a tipping point
in the 1960s and exploded in the past 10 years with reality television,
Facebook, blogging and me. "You're supposed to craft your own image and have a
personal brand. That was unheard of 10 years ago," says Twenge. Data that track
people's need for social approval show we care less and less about whether
others think we're proper, polite or considerate. "There was a battle between
acting the way people expect and 'Just be yourself,' and 'Just be yourself'
won," she said. "'You shouldn't care what anyone else thinks of you' is
something commonly told to teenagers. What would the world be like if we really
didn't care what people thought of us?" I am afraid to imagine a world in which
people don't care if others think they look hot in their Facebook bikini photos.
When Twenge
e-mailed her co-author, University of North Carolina psychology professor W.
Keith Campbell, about how self-revelation had changed journalism, he wrote back,
"It's now expected that writers of journalism insert themselves in stories. I
know that Joel has a wife named something like Calliope who is a hippie and that
Joel lives in Hollywood, has a kid and makes something like $287,000 a year. I
don't need to know any of this. But I feel closer to Joel than if I didn't."
Cassandra clearly has some work to do branding herself.
To gloat over my side's victory, I called John Leo, a respected, thoughtful
journalist who I'd been told hates my writing. Leo, 75, worked at TIME from 1974
to 1987, covering intellectual trends. He had a column in U.S. News & World
Report from 1988 until 2006. Now U.S. News has stopped printing. This dude
totally lost.
Leo called me back
within an hour and was unfailingly polite and thoughtful. Which made the
gloating even more fun. When I asked him why he hated my writing, he said it
wasn't the first person that bothered him, though he believes that perspective
is wildly overused. "I didn't like it, but I can't remember why," he said. "I
guess because I disagree with you about everything." Leo said he believes that
my team has successfully taken over journalism and that writers have permanently
abandoned the outer world for the inner one. I told him that in my case, it was
probably my parents' fault. "Don't blame your parents," he said. "You're happy
in the first person. This is just between you and your therapist."
That's challenging
since as anyone who has been reading my work for the past decade knows, my mom
is a therapist. Which, indeed, is probably why I write this column. Which means
my son will be so self-involved, the only profession he can possibly have is
cable news host.
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