Drama |
True Anger |
Scares the hearer |
Informs the hearer and creates attention in the hearer |
Is meant to silence the other |
Is meant to communicate with the other |
Masks the dashed expectation or fear of not being in control with a false sense of control |
Contains sadness or disappointment and these are acknowledged |
Blames the other for what one feels |
Takes responsibility for the feeling as one's own |
Is a strategy that masks a demand that the other change |
Asks for change but allows the other to change or not |
Is violent, aggressive, out of control, derisive, punitive |
Is nonviolent, always in control and within safe limits |
Represses the true feeling |
Expresses an assertive response |
Occludes other feelings |
Coexists with other feelings |
Creates stress because one's bruised, scared ego is impotently enraged |
Releases the aliveness in one's true self |
Is held on to and endures as resentment |
Is brief and then let go of with a sense of closure |
Insists the other see how justified one is |
Needs no response |
Drama is a belligerent reaction to rejection that punishes by further distancing |
Anger is an intimate response to rejection that bridges the distance or allows it without long-held resentment |
Drama is based on indignation that one was not treated with the love and loyalty one unconsciously believe one is entitled to |
Anger is based on displeasure at what happened but with consciousness that this feeling is based on a subjective interpretation |